direction ~

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It’s that time of year. Spring is shaking off the quilt of winter, and especially in the south, the signs are everywhere – buds emerging, lightning bugs in the soft evening light, and the droning of lawnmowers, clippers and weeders.

perfectyetThose who’ve spent the last four months complaining about the cold are at last vindicated with something new to complain about. Already, the local markets are overflowing with customers seeking a quick remedy for weeds, bugs and moles. Add in all the new prescriptions being written for allergy meds, and only a fool would be oblivious to the page turning.

But back to the post. Ahhh, yes. Each year, I am filled with anguish as my forsythia bush is clipped, and my redbud tree trimmed. Various other bushes and trees are not exempt. Only those who have suffered near death are spared the pruning that spring seems to necessitate.

And every year, I express my weariness with the process. It seems wholly unnatural to me, for I cannot recall a single instance of such in my childhood, one spent much closer to the trees, plants and weeds than I am now. Part of my problem is my understanding that all these are extensions of us, connected to us. When given dominion, I’m not sure that meant authorization to change that which seems to work quite well without any assistance.

It also reminds me of society’s innate desire to put everyone in the same box, even if that means lopping off what doesn’t fit, or that which might be less appealing. As if somehow we are more perfect without our flaws. As if a dogwood needed directions to know where to grow a branch or blossom. The truth is that we’re less perfect when we spend untold energy and expense trying to look like everyone else, to be like anyone other than ourselves. Our flaws are what make us uniquely beautiful, our scars but proof that we’ve lived (that we’ve loved).

surelythisMy favorite tree – the redbud that leans into the driveway, but remembers a place in the woods. My favorite bush – the forsythia that ignores the clipping and seems to double in size overnight – with arms swaying in the morning light, ‘look at me, look at me’.

Pruning seems painful and honestly, a waste of good sunlight. I grew up in a home with two basic rules. If it grows, you let it. And, if shows up on your porch in the middle of the night, you love it.

come these hands
as fertile ground
these eyes –
an eager sun
were guarded
by a swollen heart
to shade

the arms
of birch and maple
pressed between
the pines –
as shelter to the babies
unafraid

of dark
wherein the blue spruce glows
beneath the night’s
caress
– blossom sleeps
beside the tender blade

morning wakes in colors
a poet cannot tell
where breath became
a promise
of heaven here
was made

. . .

we carry ~

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whereIamOur days are spotted by loss and grief……….and a world of well-meaning people who pat us on the back and tell us ‘everything will be okay’. And surely it will, but it will not be the same. I feel sad for the soul who doesn’t understand – that some hurts aren’t meant to scab over. I have lost many who I loved deeply, and I’ve yet to find any other person who could perfectly fit into the place left by another. It cannot be done, and it shouldn’t be. Our healing isn’t about getting us back to ‘normal’; it’s about learning how to live (to love) even when much of who we are seems to have been lost.

In times of great sorrow, my only joy seemed in the moments just after waking, a time when I could almost convince myself that it was all a dream. But over time, I found another joy – an almost secret knowledge – that I’ve not lost a one. I sit cross-legged on the floor with a cup of coffee by shear habit, a nature……..and yet, my grandmother is there. I laugh and beneath the squealing pitch of a little girl, the timber that is my grandpa’s voice. My granny lifts the cup to her lips, with pinkie extended just so……..and more than once, I’ve felt the calm reassurance of my uncle’s hand at the small of my back. Some store away treasure in cedar, but the real treasure is that which we carry – all who have loved us, in us, still.

If we know heartbreak, then we must also know love. If loss, then surely abundance. Joy sits many a night on the same bed as once we mourned. Our ability to hurt, to break, to fall……there are blessings unaware, reminders of the times we laughed, danced, and soared. Always, we are blessed. Let us not forget the letting in letting go.

stay
that I might tell you
of times before the fall
for prehistoric winters
might I grieve

the leaving
for the welcome back
poetry you wrote
now again
a promise to believe

verses of surrender
confession
heard the same
as ancient constellations
to pretend

the path
was never easy
as getting back to one
a forest grew
to block the view
again

held me here
one faraway
decision to return
across a sky of blue
another day

slipped
into the ocean
embrace of waking arms
as breezes come
to carry me
away

twisted ~

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partsofme

Yesterday was an eventful day. It was time for my regular trip to my hairdresser, who happens to also be one of my best friends, as dear to me as my next breath.

Almost always, there are others at the salon who I know, since their schedule appears to be closely knit with mine (every five weeks, or buy a hat).  It is often a reunion of sorts, women connected by place and a pair of remarkable scissors.

When I arrived, others were in various stages of trimming, cutting and styling but no one I recognized. I sat down and joined in a conversation with my friend and two of her customers. After about ten minutes, one of the ladies finished up and moved to the front desk for payment and scheduling of her next appointment. This left me with the other, who was adorned with various pieces of tinfoil and clips. Only a moment passed before I spoke….

“I know this sounds odd, but I know you. I’m not sure how, but I do. Are you from the area?”

“Hillsboro.”

“All your life?”

“Yes, pretty much.”

“Okay, well, I hate to ask but how old are you?” (You need a really good excuse for asking such a thing, especially in the south – and especially in a salon.)

“I graduated high school in 1980.”

“O, well, you would have graduated between my brother and my baby sister.”

“Maybe I know them.”

“Maybe. My brother is Stephen George, and my baby sister is………”

“Renee………o my God……….that means you must be Bobbie.”

“Yes………”

“I’m Lynn……..was Lynn Barlow.”

And everything else fell together. My family and hers lived near to one another for most of my childhood. She has an older sister and an older brother, and we were stair-steps (the children of these two families)…….me, Mike, Janey, Debra, Stephen, Lynn, and Renee. While she and her brother had never moved away from the area, I had. Later, I recollected to my parents that I likely hadn’t seen Lynn in 40 years. And yet (and yet), I knew her.

Once I knew her name, I saw similarities to the girl I knew growing up. But before that, I suspect something deeper – a recognition of spirit, or perhaps a recognition of myself in history we share.

I recently commented to a friend here that we feel empty at times with the loss of presence in our life, and maybe the ache is as much for the person we were (when in their arms) as it is for the individual.

This morning, I was thinking on the entire evening – time reconnecting with an old friend, and time with my parents, putting names to pictures, people and places before my time. I thought of how our lives are interconnected with others, fit against each other, like pieces of a puzzle. You can remove a piece and insert another, but only one piece fits perfectly. Others may come close, but there’s always some overlap or space left between. Surely, it’s exactly as it should be for none of us can compare to another, as anyone else fails comparison with us.

Our stories are twisted together into one story. Even the faces in pictures from before my birth are of people whose stories were weaved with those of my parents, my grandparents – branches beyond my knowing. Tho ultimately, their story became some part of the beginning of my own.

Our world celebrates individuality, and even nature delights in variegations. And yet, there is a reason our roots run deep, tying and retying with those of others, becoming an anchor, a network, a family, a garden, a home.

Who we are is so much more than the words of one song, the leaves of one old tree.

send me not
the ways to grieve
for places passed before
when laid with you
beneath a northern sky
telling back
to other times –
faces we have changed
becoming this
immortal
as the night

. . .

lent of heaven ~

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heldmethen

how gently move
these brittle bones
from evermore to waking
eternities
beneath my pillow
cold

were traded once
as came a dream –
get me back
by morning
before the sun –
her fingers brushing
gold

to places
braided silver
are memories remiss
– a photograph
tendered not
by name

a blush
of april blossom
tangled in my hair –
moments lent
of heaven
to reclaim

pages yet
unburdened
of all that I might say
were secrets meant
my senses
to restore

a haunting recollection
of windows
open still –
a silent moon
and footprints
on the floor

how gently move
these brittle bones
from evermore to waking

. . .

moments of forever ~

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thatImightdream

how sparse
these fleeting seasons
wherein our silence lies
as dungeons black
was there the martyr fell
confessing
to the almost
every time before
when dreams awoke
with stories of the veil

between the will
for one more day –
the rhythm of our years
is weighted by another
passed in vain
sins denied their pardon
keep me up at night
reason raps
the rusted window pane

wishes
I’ve decided
are rarely worth the risk
cast upon a starless
consequence
a boy I knew
I said I loved –
love him still sometimes
for moments of forever
nothing else makes sense

. . .

memories of time ~

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living for

as snow
atop the cedars
melted with our tears
washed away
these memories
of time

awaiting us –
eternities
beyond this resting place
denied the dream
by sorrows
so divine

what more of love
becoming –
as blossoms to the chill
would last
where essence drifted
down the pines

. . .

the sweetest vow ~

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chance

a slivered edge
of promise
threaded to a scar
has severed now the line
that held my fate

pressed into
the satin sash –
folded thrice
or more
til words are split
along my yesterdays

as penance
to the keeping –
treasure weights the shelf
above the proof
of tears
we fell between

the sweetest
vow remember me
penned into my soul –
remnants of
a love –
I used to know

rewritten ~

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nostalgic

were destinies
rewritten here –
a name for every loss
remains within
these places we have known
graces bound
together
breath
remembers breath
a sigh becomes
the memory
of home

. . .

a reason for returning ~

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ofyesterdays

was a stone
became my comfort
polished into glass
carried from the creek
in mid-july

as proof
of something sweeter
than honeysuckle bloom
the smile you gave
to me –
a lullabye

remembered
by the sparrow
e’en now he comes to sing
alight with notes
the wind has never heard

secrets
we were keeping
flutter through the trees
verses strung
as silences to word

of some days
I am certain
another time will be
a reason for returning –
here I am

anchored by the notion
of love –
a weightless stone
polished to remembrance
in my hand

. . .